Books and Links
If you find that miscarriage and loss books are mixed in
with
pregnancy books at your bookstore,
let the manager know that this is a bad
idea.
I have found that they will move miscarriage books
to "Women's
Health" upon request.
Deanna's Top
Recommendations
I have personally read these books and
believe they are helpful.
Davis, Deborah L. Empty Cradle, Broken
Heart. Golden, Colorado: Fulcrum Publishing, 1999 revised edition.
This is the book John and I read in the car.
It takes you through every step of the grieving process, including moving on
and trying for your next baby. It includes a solid section on what to expect
both physically and mentally after a miscarriage or neonatal death. This book helped us a lot
when we worked through it as
a couple, instead of just me reading it. Click
here for more information.
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Scher, Jonathan. Preventing Miscarriage,
The Good News. New York: Harper Perennial, 1990.
I bought this book way back when I was trying
to get pregnant and was experiencing long cycles that I worried might be early
miscarriages. It is very straightforward and I got much of the information for
this website from it. It includes a number of women's stories to soften the
rather clinical information. Click
here for more information.
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Weschler, Toni. Taking Charge of Your
Fertility. New York: Harper Perennial, 1995.
This book is a MUST HAVE if you are trying to
get pregnant. For the first time in my life, I finally understood what all my
discharges were about, how to truly interpret my temperatures, and all those
fine details that mom, doctors, and pamphlets enclosed with products never
explained. This book will definitely help you get pregnant faster, or clue you
in quicker if you have an infertility problem that needs medical attention. A
life saver. Click
here for more information.
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Molly's
Rosebush by Janice Cohn.
A children's book that helps children deal with the loss of an
unborn sibling. I bought this book for that day when Emily finally asks
who Casey is. It is very nicely done, probably geared for the 3-8 age group,
and has an introduction for parents. Click
here for more information.
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Newly Released Books
I only comment on those books I have actually read. A couple of them
are not out yet.
Furnia,
Molly and Dunnewold, Ann. A Piece of My Heart: Living Through the
Grief of Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Infant Death , 2000.
Click
here for more information.
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Carol
Cirulli Lanham. Pregnancy after a Loss: A Guide to Pregnancy After
a Miscarriage, Stillbirth or Infant Death , 1999.
Lanham writes empathetically, and you
can relax with her careful and informative text. The book's
organization, however, really requires you to read whole chapters to
get information. If you want to breeze to pertinent sections and read
only those, you will be forced to muddle through quite a bit of text.
For a sitting around and lounge read, it makes a good source.
Click
here for more information.
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Kluger-Bell,
Kim. Unspeakable Losses: Healing from Miscarriage, Abortion, and
Other Pregnancy Loss, 2000.
Click
here for more information.
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Douglas, Ann, et all. Trying
Again: A Guide to Pregnancy After Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant
Loss, 2000.
Click
here for more information.
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Berman, Michael R. Parenthood
Lost: Healing the Pain after Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Death,
2000.
Click
here for more information.
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Other Popular Books
Semchyscyn, Stefan and Carol Colman. How to
Prevent Miscarriage and Other Crisis of Pregnancy , 1990
A number of people swear by this book and it
is one of the best-selling books about miscarriage. It is also very
straightforward. Click
here for more information.
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Eisenberg, Arlene, Murkoff, Heidi, and
Hathaway, Sandee. What to Expect When You're Expecting. New York:
Workman Publishing, 1996.
This is the classic book all pregnant women
should own. Ask your doctor if he/she will provide you a copy before you buy
one. Mine gave me one, so I have two. Click
here for more information.
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Reiss,
Fern, et al. The Infertility Diet: Get Pregnant and Prevent
Miscarriage. 1999
I admit to being pretty skeptical about
this book, but it is the top seller for miscarriage books at amazon.com
and comes recommended by several important groups, including RESOLVE and
INCIID. Click
here for more information.
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Children's Books
Molly's
Rosebush by Janice Cohn.
A children's book that helps children deal with the loss of an
unborn sibling. I bought this book for that day when Emily finally asks
who Casey is. It is very nicely done, probably geared for the 3-8 age group,
and has an introduction for parents. Click
here for more information.
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Stacy
Had a Little Sister A children's book that explains about a sister who
dies from SIDS. |
Waiting
for Baby Joe A children's book with photographs of a sibling in neonatal
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Links
A lifesaving group of women and some of their
spouses who will support you, tell you what to expect, and be a ready
listener. They also have medical forums where doctors will answer your
questions.
Check their search
engine for background information if you'd rather lurk than post.
An extremely well done web site dealing with
all aspects of miscarriage and its aftermath, including a pen pal system for
bereaved mothers to contact other bereaved mothers.
A large, comprehensive miscarriage site with
workshops, memorial gardens for baby dedications, and many poems and
testimonials from bereaved parents
An overall parents site with many areas beside
just miscarriage. This huge group of women have become a community and often
talk to each other on the bulletin boards. Parents Place has a less serious
feel than INCIID.
Parents Place has two really neat features: A pregnancy
calendar that you create will chart your baby's progress for the nine
months. I printed one out for Casey to put in his memory box.
You can certainly just go to their main
page and browse around without going directly to the pregnancy loss area,
of which there are several.
A wonderful Christian site with information on
how to handle the things people will say to you after a miscarriage, a web
ring, music and poetry, and a message about how to become a Christian.
- Bereaved
Moms Share
A site that offers an email group, poems and
songs, and a gift store where you can purchase prints, jewelry, and other
items with a baby and angel theme.
A nice site to post your miscarriage,
stillbirth, or early infant death story and read others.
Outlines the frequency, causes, and treatment of PROM.
A mostly Christian site with sections such as,
"Why your baby is a real person." and "How you can know
your baby is in heaven." There is also a nice section about what to say
to someone who has had a miscarriage.
Few people know that I am now a baby
photographer. Because of Casey, I also do photo restoration and portraits of
stillborn babies. This is a free service. Often hospital pictures are not very
flattering, and I can usually make them beautiful enough to display or show to
other people. You send in the picture by mail (in the US) or scan it and send
it by email and I will retouch the photo and email the file back to you.
Where does this information come from?
Many people are concerned about the quality of information they
receive on the Internet. It is a growing concern that people are getting medical
advice from poor sources. This site is written completely by Deanna,
the web mistress, who lost her own first baby in 1998. Since then, she has
interviewed doctors, read countless books, researched both print and web
materials, and talked with several thousand women about their experiences
via email.
One thing we do know is that no one--from the terrified woman who is miscarrying to the revered doctors publishing well researched
articles in the New England Journal of Medicine--totally agrees on many
facts surrounding miscarriage. It is the intent of this web site to provide the
most general and accepted of facts, while realizing that every woman's
experience is different, and that statistics such as 1 in 500 don't mean much if
you are the 1.
This site is certainly not infallible. The only person who can
really tell you what is going on is your own doctor, who peers into your
privates with a light and a speculum, who samples your urine, or who presses a
sonogram paddle into your belly. If you are in trouble, bleeding, scared, or
more depressed than you think you can recover from, you MUST find help. Read and
research all you can, but remember that the one-on-one assistance of a real
doctor is the only thing that will give you answers that count.
To see my book and web resources, scroll to the top of this
page or click here.
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